When I read the following email it struck a chord, instantly.

It was one of those moments where I suddenly became very aware of that moment in time, what I was doing right there and made me think of exactly how I want to be living my life. Have a read:

If I had my child to raise all over again, 

I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later.

I’d finger paint more, and point the finger less. 

I would do less correcting and more connecting.

I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes. 

I’d take more hikes and fly more kites.

I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.

I’d do more hugging and less tugging

Diane Loomans

Now I’m sure that it won’t just affect those of you who are parents. When I read it I was obviously thinking about my children but I also quickly thought about whether I could change it so that it was about me.  I reckon that all you need to do is change the first line and the rest is all still just as relevant. But whether it’s a about you or your parenting poems like this can have a very profound effect on your life. Whilst it’s lovely to read a poem like this, what you do next is really important. Do you:

  1. Register it and immediately go back to what you were doing?
  2. Think about it, realise there’s something in there that you’d like take action on. And then somehow get dragged straight back into what ever it was that you were doing before and forget about it?
  3. Stop, think, realise that this has struck a chord and take action?

If we’re honest, most of us would do either a or b. “That’s lovely Jim, but now I’ve got to get on with…………” That’s the life most of us live. And there’s nothing wrong with that if that’s what you want.

But what if your life isn’t everything you want it to be? What if you’re not living a 10/10 life? What if you’re at 4/10, /10 or even 8/10?

What about choosing option c?

What if reading this poem made you choose to go and fly a kite today?

What if reading this poem made you stay up just a little later, wrap up warm and go and stare at the stars?

What if you started to give people meaningful hugs? Not awkward ones, just a proper hug where you meant it just for a second or 2.

How would it feel to do something like that?

I’ll bet once you got over any awkwardness (which is always you just being a bit silly in your own head anyway) it would feel good. It would feel really good. And then imagine if the next day you did it again, or you went and walked through a field or had a proper conversation where you really focussed on the other person and what they were saying.

It doesn’t take a lot to make a big difference. In fact it takes just one thing:

It’s one choice.

Make a choice to do the thing you really want to do. Stop focussing on the many reasons you come up with as to why you can’t do it – most of them aren’t real or genuine anyway. And do it today.

Please leave us a comment or email us to let us know what you did or to make any other comments on the post above.

Jim


P.S. There are a couple of postscripts to this blog that need to be considered:

  1. What if I don’t know what I really want to do?
  2. Just doing it once won’t make a difference?

Both of these are very real questions but both are much easier to address once you’ve decided that you really want something different and taken some action (just once) to start the process.

If this is you then please email us and we’ll show you how.